Weddings are happy, but very stressful, occasions. There’s a lot of planning to be done and many people’s needs to consider. You may also be facing pressure from family members who might be helping you pay for the wedding. Here are a few do’s and don’ts when it comes to wedding planning.
Do write and practice your vows before the big day. You’re going to be so nervous, excited, and overwhelmed on your wedding day that deciding to improvise your vows on the spot is bound to be a disaster. Besides, if you’re videoing the wedding, you don’t want your family and friends to remember your, uh, vows, like, um …
Don’t skimp on the food. It’s tempting to save money on your wedding by reducing the amount of food you offer to your guests. After all, some of your family and friends might tell you, nobody eats at a wedding, and besides, nobody is going to remember the food. Wrong! A lot of times, the food is one of the key things wedding guests remember.
Do plan the seating assignments. It might be fun in theory to randomize the seating, but that could lead to mass discomfort. Just imagine if your staunchly Republican uncle is seated with your liberal Democrat friend, especially in the current political climate: Disaster could ensue.
Don’t make the reception a BYOB event. This is a disaster waiting to happen. If you’re on a budget, consider offering an open bar for an hour or two and having a cash bar for the rest of the night.
Do know when to say “no.” There’s a huge distance between being assertive and being a Bridezilla. If your florist is trying to talk you into the most expensive possible tabletop bouquets, it’s really okay to tell them that a more affordable alternative is just as beautiful.
Don’t wait to buy your wedding dress. It may be tempting to wait until wedding dresses go on sale before you purchase yours, but that could actually do you more harm than good. First of all, you might end up spending more money on rush alterations than you would have spent on the dress when it’s not on sale. Secondly, don’t you want to have a dress you really want and that’s within your budget instead of one you settled for because it was on sale?
Do treat your bridesmaids and groomsmen well. This should go without saying, but often the wedding party bears the brunt of any Bridezilla (or Groomzilla) moments. Give your bridesmaids a choice of a few dresses so they can pick one that looks good with their body type—it’s passé to be all matchy-matchy, anyway. Be sure your bridesmaids and groomsmen get some kind of special thank-you after all is said and done.
Don’t try to DIY everything. Yes, it might sound like a great way to save some money, but you’ll have enough on your mind without having to make all the flower arrangements and party favors the night before your wedding. This is also true with your beauty routine: Spend the extra dough on getting a wedding hairdo and manicure rather than trying to do it yourself.
Most important of all, DO enjoy yourself! This is your big day and you’ll likely never have another one like it. Breathe, take the time to enjoy this special day with your family and friends, and enjoy your honeymoon afterwards—no matter how long or short it is.