Dos and Don’t For 21st Century Wedding Guests

hashtag weddingFifty years ago, heck even ten years ago, technology did not play the kind of role that it does in daily life today. It used to be that when people went out, they would go out together and – gasp! – not photo-document, tweet, text everything they saw or fuss over any kind of techie gadget the way that we do now. Amanda Goetz, founder and CEO of, a website that guides wedding planners and brides-to-be, has created a list of modern day wedding “dos and don’ts,” etiquette tips fit for a tech-crazed world.

Here is what Goetz urges 21st century wedding guests to do and not to do:

  • Do respect the couples wishes if they ask you not to share any photos of them on social media.
  • Don’t, I repeat DO NOT, vent about the wedding on social media. You’re not enjoying the food? Is the music too loud? Find the wedding planner or get over it, says Goetz.
  • Do use a provided hashtag (#) when posting pictures. Take a look at my guide to using hashtags during “social media weddings” for reference.
  • Do remember to put down your phone and enjoy the party! You can’t really dance while you text or tweet, after all!
  • Do keep the couple in mind. Before you post a picture, just consider: would you want it posted for the world to see? Just try to enjoy yourself without documenting every single moment, that’s what the paid wedding photographer is for!
  • Do turn off the ringer on the phone if you have it with you during the quiet, intimate ceremony. Having your phone go off during that special moment is truly unacceptable.
  • Don’t send out a picture of the bride before she walks down the aisle. This is definitely Goetz’s biggest piece of etiquette advice, and the one that clings to the old-fashioned tradition of the bride and groom not seeing one another before the wedding ceremony.

Make sure to check out all of Goetz’s wedding guest dos and don’ts!


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