Let’s all take a moment to step back from wedding planning and reflect. Why are you getting married? What makes all this planning and spending worth it? I hope your response is that you are in love. It’s all about the love, isn’t it? At least it should be.
But I read a disturbing article the other day that made me realize that, more and more, we’re letting our budgets run away with us. In a desperate attempt to “top” those that came before us, to be unique, to be unforgettable, we’re forgetting what is most important: the relationship.
So many people say that their wedding day is the most important thing of their life. And now it seems that the proposal day isn’t far behind. Now, I’m not saying that those days aren’t important, but they certainly shouldn’t be more important than the entire life you’re pledging to spend together.
The average wedding in Manhattan last year cost $76,678, according to Kate Story of the New York Post. And apparently proposals are now costing between $5,000 and $50,000 dollars. Good lord, who has enough money to shoulder that burden? And if you do have that much money, why are you spending all of your savings on one (or two) day(s)?
I’m not saying that we should stop trying to be unique or impress our future husbands and wives. But what I am saying is that we shouldn’t lose sight of what’s really important in this whole mess of things. It’s the person, not the money.
“Just getting down on bended knee is no longer enough. Popping the question is now a scripted spectacle requiring an elaborate production team of choreographers, cameramen and assistants,” Storey wrote in her article.
Let’s come back to earth for a moment, back to a time when saying “I love you” and “I want to spend the rest of my life with you” was enough. Because it still should be.